When we think of (getting) coaching, we often tend to think of calling upon professional (organizational) psychologists. We also tend to think we have to have a (serious) problem and that there might be something a (little) ‘wrong’ with us and/or that we need to improve. Yet it can be simpler and lighter.
Having the privilege to work with the largest food, health and wellness company in the world to embed a coaching culture, I have come to encounter the Everyday Coaching Model.
A model for everyone to use
The title speaks for itself, it is a coaching model using the GROW method. The GROW method found its inspiration in sports psychology and top sporters/winners. It is a way of coaching that colleagues, peers, bosses, employees in fact anyone in organizations can use in a conversation with the aim of helping the other(s) grow and achieve great results.
How to GROW
When in a conversation there are 4 elementary steps to take by asking powerful questions and actively listening:
- What is your goal: what do you want to achieve
- What is the reality: what is the current situation, what is the gap between how it is and what you want to achieve?
- What options do you have to realize/achieve this goal: how could you go about it?
- What is the next step: what will you do and when?
One level deeper
It may be as simple as the 4 steps above. Sometimes when we have a bit more time and trust we can go one level deeper to find out why the next step has not already been taken by asking the following question:
5. What obstacles are getting in the way of taking the next step to achieve your goal: what is truly holding you back?
We perceive the world as we are, not as how others are
After this you can then see how the obstacles are truly a reality or that there are other ways of interpretation that would help dissolve the obstacles. By being an attentive listener (as well as just another person with different perceptions and reality) you can help the other to see alternative perceptions to help him/her grow.
Everyday coaching conversation one level deeper example:
Coachee: I want to develop a new marketing strategy plan for our division and at the moment I am tied up in meetings all day with no time to do this important task.
Everyday coach: What are your options?
Coachee: I could block two days out of my agenda the coming month and work from home to write the plan I have in my head.
Everyday coach: Sounds great, so whats truly holding you back from doing this?
Coachee: I feel a bit guilty with all the things going on at the moment to step back and out of the office. Everyone is so busy, running from meeting to meeting. I feel like I will be letting my team down by not being there.
Coach: what other ways could you look at this so as not to feel guilty?
Coachee: I suppose that by writing out the marketing strategy that is in my head at the moment, I can give guidance to my team for the key priorities for the coming year. This would help them make clear priorities as to where our focus lies and hence what meetings to attend and what not to. Basically it would help relieve some of the stress and hectic that I am also feeling at the moment!
Enjoy learning to grow
My experience working with many professional teams is that when this simple model is used with the intention to learn(from both sides), nothing can go wrong, everyday coach and coachee just grow. Enjoy!